“ENJOY THE SMALL MOMENTS.”
This is one of the greatest pieces of advice that I could give to any client or friend during the process of planning for a wedding and marriage. It can be applied to any other context because it’s short, sweet, and to the point. I’d like to share it with you because it’s essential to keep in the back of your mind as life continues to throw things at you like a tennis ball launcher on everlasting energizer batteries.
Sometimes, people spend their whole lives figuring out what they want to be when they grow up. Everyone has dreams as a child and then those either come to fruition or slowly fade away as reality of the world sets in. During this time of social unrest and constant change, it’s important to take a step back and evaluate what makes you happy and how you want to serve your purpose.
Planning weddings and events may not seem as purposeful as some of the more notable professions out there but so far it is what has made me feel the most fulfilled in life. It’s not about the glitz, glamour, decor, etc. But rather, it is the look on your client’s faces when you know that you had an impact on one of the most important days of their lives. Sure, you can strive for everything to be perfect but there may be times that not everything goes according to plan. While it’s frustrating when that happens, I always feel accomplished if I am able to stay positive and solutions-oriented through it all. In a world of severe negativity and hate, I enjoy being an agent of love and bringing people together. As cliché as that may sound, it’s a part of the industry that some planners may eventually lose sight on. As for someone who is barely shy of being a virgin to the industry, I want to set the goal to never lose sight of my purpose. There will be trials and tribulations but as long as I can come home feeling accomplished then I will call it a success.
I will urge anyone ever reading this to do the same. Life is too short to not follow your passions, so follow your desires and enjoy the small moments along the way.
You’ve set the date and you’re in full wedding planning mode! Of course, this is your day and your wedding should be fitting of you and your future spouse. However, one thing that some couples may overlook is the guest list, oh the dreaded guest list….Who is going to talk to who? Is there going to be a continuation of the fight from last Christmas?
These are things that you simply might not be able to control, and that’s okay! It’s important to set up yourself in a good environment to alleviate any of the potential stressors.
This can be accomplished by strategically thinking about your room layout, food selections, and setting expectations with guests before the big event.
- Room Layout
- Seating Chart: Keep updating drafts of your seating and table chart. Even though it may seem tedious, you’ll want to revise it as those RSVPs roll in so you have the most accurate numbers. (Reminder: You will have to give your event venue a final count at least a week to a month beforehand, depending on the venue.) Next, think about who you want to place near each other. You may not want your rowdy friends from college sitting next to the table with your Great Aunt Edna.
- Cocktail-style reception: This style is a great option for couples that may want to have a smaller food budget and it can be a great time with the right thoughts beforehand. However, it’s crucial to set expectations with your guests in your invitations about what a cocktail-style reception will involve. If it’s a smaller space there may not be enough tables for everyone to sit at the entire night. This is something to consider if you have a lot of elderly guests or individuals with mobility issues.
- Food Selections
- This is a process that begins when you’re choosing your venue/caterer. As you attend tastings, keep in mind the people who will be in attendance. Yes, it’s your day, you should have the food you want but make sure there will be enough variety and choices for everyone coming to share in your special day. For example, any vegetarians, vegans, pescetarians, guests with food allergies going to be in attendance? Yes, it’s up to them to decide if your wedding will have the appropriate food items and to plan accordingly, but it is a nice special touch when you’ve thought about them in advance and made sure they’ll be comfortable.
The suggestions above are just a start. Carefully crafting your guest list is the next pertinent step in the process. You may want to invite 300-500 of your “closest” friends but are they really going to add value to your event or are you going to regret even thinking about inviting them in the first place. Be on the lookout for a future post where I’ll create a step-by-step guide into creating a guest list you can be happy with and proud of.
“THE BEST WAY TO PREDICT THE FUTURE IS TO CREATE IT”
– ABRAHAM LINCOLN
Hi all! So you’ll learn that I have a strong passion for the event industry. I’ve served as an event assistant for multiple weddings and industry events. I know eventually I will make it a bigger part of my career, but for now I’m learning the ropes and wanted to share some of my insights with you.
I’m not going to have all the answers, but I’m a great observer. I know when things aren’t going to work out logistically and I know what a successfully executed event looks like. Therefore, with this post, I’m officially launching “Wedding Insights Wednesdays.” Be on the look out in the future for my advice, horror stories, and hopes for everlasting love.
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