Wedding Insights: Munchkins

Here’s the question…are you going to have kids at your wedding? There are a few things to consider when answering this question. I was recently assisting at a wedding that had 35 kids under the age of 18. Some of you may of very different reactions to that number as I certainly have mine. But, to keep this somewhat objective I’ve laid out some possible pros and cons for the general public. Don’t make fun of my pro-con lists, they work for Rory Gilmore, they work for me…


  • Cute Photos: Aren’t they just the cutest, with their sweet little smiles dressed up in pretty dresses and handsome tuxes? There are a lot of photo ideas on Pinterest, Instagram, or other wedding magazine sites for ideas of how to capture some cute moments of children at your wedding.
  • Flower Girl and Ring Bearer: There are traditions behind each and if they are important to you to incorporate in your ceremony then you might want to lean towards having them be a part of the processional.
    • Flower Girls have a few different origins from different regions. Many talk about her innocence and symbolism for fertility and prosperity.
    • Ring Bearers have less of a symbolic history, but the tradition has been traced back to different time periods. The main thought is that there must be a designated individual a part of the ceremony to protect the wedding bands because they symbolize the couple’s love and commitment for one another.
  • Whole Families Are Included: You may have a guest list with family members or friends that have children. It is a nice gesture to include the whole family if you can swing it. Especially if the children are close family members it is more common for them to be expected to be invited.


  • Cost: This can be a pro or a con by the way you look at it. If they aren’t babies, kids are going to have to be fed (obviously). But this is something that you’ll want to discuss with your caterer. Always give them a final count of how many kids will be at your wedding because they will deduct that number from the food and alcohol costs and instead charge you for kids meals at a discounted rate. So yes, nice that they cost less to attend than an adult but you will save more if you leave them off the list completely.
  • Babysitters NOT Guests: Whenever I’ve seen a parent with a child at a wedding, they’re typically not in the center of the action for the majority of the night. Instead they are hiding out in back stairways and hallways, calming their crying children or distracting them with games etc. Still, some guests would rather have their entire family in attendance so you can leave it up to them about how they want to spend the night. Or they can hire a babysitter and have an adults-only night out.
  • Life Of The Party: Another thing I’ve seen with children at weddings is that the dance floor somehow always gets centered around them. Again, this can be really cute but people might not be able to let loose as much, which then again might not be a bad thing.

My thoughts:

  • Think about the kind of party you want to have. Having kids at a wedding can change the vibe or feeling of the event. Everyone will have a different opinion on whether that change is a positive or negative.
  • Keep it minimal. Have kids at your wedding that are close to you like your immediate nieces, nephews, or maybe cousins in some cases. You shouldn’t feel guilty about not being able to invite your friend’s kids. They should understand and will most likely enjoy the night out alone.



This is one of the greatest pieces of advice that I could give to any client or friend during the process of planning for a wedding and marriage. It can be applied to any other context because it’s short, sweet, and to the point. I’d like to share it with you because it’s essential to keep in the back of your mind as life continues to throw things at you like a tennis ball launcher on everlasting energizer batteries.

Goal #1 of my life as an event planner.

Sometimes, people spend their whole lives figuring out what they want to be when they grow up. Everyone has dreams as a child and then those either come to fruition or slowly fade away as reality of the world sets in. During this time of social unrest and constant change, it’s important to take a step back and evaluate what makes you happy and how you want to serve your purpose.

Planning weddings and events may not seem as purposeful as some of the more notable professions out there but so far it is what has made me feel the most fulfilled in life. It’s not about the glitz, glamour, decor, etc. But rather, it is the look on your client’s faces when you know that you had an impact on one of the most important days of their lives. Sure, you can strive for everything to be perfect but there may be times that not everything goes according to plan. While it’s frustrating when that happens, I always feel accomplished if I am able to stay positive and solutions-oriented through it all. In a world of severe negativity and hate, I enjoy being an agent of love and bringing people together. As cliché as that may sound, it’s a part of the industry that some planners may eventually lose sight on. As for someone who is barely shy of being a virgin to the industry, I want to set the goal to never lose sight of my purpose. There will be trials and tribulations but as long as I can come home feeling accomplished then I will call it a success.

I will urge anyone ever reading this to do the same. Life is too short to not follow your passions, so follow your desires and enjoy the small moments along the way.


Wedding Insights: Know Your Guest List

You’ve set the date and you’re in full wedding planning mode! Of course, this is your day and your wedding should be fitting of you and your future spouse. However, one thing that some couples may overlook is the guest list, oh the dreaded guest list….Who is going to talk to who? Is there going to be a continuation of the fight from last Christmas?

These are things that you simply might not be able to control, and that’s okay! It’s important to set up yourself in a good environment to alleviate any of the potential stressors.

This can be accomplished by strategically thinking about your room layout, food selections, and setting expectations with guests before the big event.

  1. Room Layout
    • Seating Chart: Keep updating drafts of your seating and table chart. Even though it may seem tedious, you’ll want to revise it as those RSVPs roll in so you have the most accurate numbers. (Reminder: You will have to give your event venue a final count at least a week to a month beforehand, depending on the venue.) Next, think about who you want to place near each other. You may not want your rowdy friends from college sitting next to the table with your Great Aunt Edna.
    • Cocktail-style reception: This style is a great option for couples that may want to have a smaller food budget and it can be a great time with the right thoughts beforehand. However, it’s crucial to set expectations with your guests in your invitations about what a cocktail-style reception will involve. If it’s a smaller space there may not be enough tables for everyone to sit at the entire night. This is something to consider if you have a lot of elderly guests or individuals with mobility issues.
  2. Food Selections
    • This is a process that begins when you’re choosing your venue/caterer. As you attend tastings, keep in mind the people who will be in attendance. Yes, it’s your day, you should have the food you want but make sure there will be enough variety and choices for everyone coming to share in your special day. For example, any vegetarians, vegans, pescetarians, guests with food allergies going to be in attendance? Yes, it’s up to them to decide if your wedding will have the appropriate food items and to plan accordingly, but it is a nice special touch when you’ve thought about them in advance and made sure they’ll be comfortable.

The suggestions above are just a start. Carefully crafting your guest list is the next pertinent step in the process. You may want to invite 300-500 of your “closest” friends but are they really going to add value to your event or are you going to regret even thinking about inviting them in the first place. Be on the lookout for a future post where I’ll create a step-by-step guide into creating a guest list you can be happy with and proud of.

Wedding Insights Wednesdays

Hi all! So you’ll learn that I have a strong passion for the event industry. I’ve served as an event assistant for multiple weddings and industry events. I know eventually I will make it a bigger part of my career, but for now I’m learning the ropes and wanted to share some of my insights with you.

I’m not going to have all the answers, but I’m a great observer. I know when things aren’t going to work out logistically and I know what a successfully executed event looks like. Therefore, with this post, I’m officially launching “Wedding Insights Wednesdays.” Be on the look out in the future for my advice, horror stories, and hopes for everlasting love.

Happy Planning!

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